This Project documents long term gay and lesbian committed relationships. According to the Australian Bureau of Statistics the median length of an Australian Marriage is 8.7 years so I have used this number as the minimum length of time to be part of this project.

I believe that Gay,Lesbian and Transgendered relationships deserve the same legal rights and public respect as heterosexual ones.

But this project is about more than just "gay marriage" I really hope that these simple images of loving couples will help reduce homophobia, will inspire young people to keep their romantic dreams and for parents to know that their gay, lesbian and transgendered children have just as much chance of having a long term and happy family life as anyone else.

The Commitment Project is aimed to show the wider community that gays and lesbians, for all our differences we still fundamentally want the same thing, to be allowed to love who we love.

If you are gay, lesbian, queer (or however you wish to identify yourself) in a relationship longer than 8.7 years (which is about 8 years and 10 months) and would like to be involved in this project please send me an email - and put "the commitment project" in the subject line.

Please do not use any of the images contained with this website for any purpose without the written permission of Evan Cooper AND the people within the photograph.

Everyone who views this blog is welcome to leave comments, in fact I encourage people to do so.

After speaking to the NSW based "The Gender Centre" to seek some clarification (but this doesn't make me an expert) I really encourage any transgendered people that are not able to marry due to their gender identity and their birthday certificate being different to be part of this project. They just need to be in a committed relationship for 8.8 years or longer.

Friday, September 2, 2011

A message of support from Lord Mayor Clover Moore

"The photographs of loving couples on this site eloquently demonstrates what I have known for a long time - that many lesbians, gay men and people of transgender live in long standing committed nurturing relationships.  

As well as giving the campaign for equal recognition a human dimension, the photos should encourage young lesbians and gay men and their families to believe that finding happiness with a long term partner is a realistic aspiration.

I commend Evan for his initiative in establishing The Commitment Project website."

Wednesday, August 31, 2011

Nikki and Mel with their daughter Emelia

© evan cooper
Date of Commitment - December 1997
"We believe we are soulmates and our daughter, Emelia, is the completion of our puzzle."

Friday, August 26, 2011

Tuesday, August 23, 2011

David and Michael

© keys
Date of Commitment - March 1999
"We met on 19th March 1999 and had our commitment ceremony on 5th February 2005.
We are strong together, great together and belong together."

Thursday, August 4, 2011

A message of Support from Brent in reponse to Eric and Jason

`Good stuff mate.. While i`m straight, you guys are far from receiving the respect you deserve and treated by all as equals. Homophobia will only be shoved to the dark ages with education and public knowledge as you are doing. I own a printing company and three graphic designers and happy to sponsor by donating print/ artwork / fliers / cards / etc if would be used. Buzz me at Allbern  if i can help!'

Monday, August 1, 2011

Eric and Jason

andrew edwards
Date of Commitment - May 1992
"Both of our birthdays and anniversary fall within 5 days. "

Wednesday, July 20, 2011

Angus and Glenn

© evan cooper
Date of Commitment - April 1999
"Totally committed to each other and our relationship for life!"

Wednesday, July 13, 2011

Julie and Melissa

© evan cooper
Date of Commitment - April 1996
"When Jewel first proposed, I told her I look pasty in white and I ain't the marrying kind.  She then went about extending and enriching me beyond belief. We raised two great kids together and nurtured the very best in each other.  After 16 years in a tender, passionate and noisy relationship, we also have an amazing collection of truly stupid running jokes.

So Miss McCrossin - I will! I do! (as long as you promise I can have Nick Cave for the bridal waltz...)" Melissa Gibson - and Julie McCrossin, who says "yes" the  Nick Cave walz!"

Chris & Graeme

© castro
Date of Commitment - November 1995
"Graeme and I met at the Red Raw in Melbourne in January of 1995 while I was traveling around Australia. We spent an incredible month together before I had to tearfully return to the US. We kept in contact daily and Graeme came to visit me several times in the US before we decided that I should make the move to Australia as it recognises same sex partner immigration. Something the US does not. I moved to Australia on 1 November 1995 and it's that date we use as our commitment anniversary. Three years later I became an Australian citizen under the Interdependent Partnership visa. Fifteen and a half years and still growing."

Monday, July 11, 2011

Kelly, Sam and their daughter, Charlotte.

© Pilgrim-Byrne
Date of Commitment - January 1994
"Together for 18 years in January 2012.  Our beloved daughter is nearly 4 years old.  It’s time to make marriage about love and commitment, not gender.  Isn’t that how it should be?"

Saturday, July 9, 2011

Daniel and Rob

© evan cooper
Date of Commitment - April 2002
"Loving + Laughing = Lasting"

Saturday, July 2, 2011

Jean and Cathy

© evan  cooper
Date of Commitment - June 2001
"We work together, we live together, we are together 24/7 and can still laugh, love and enjoy each other."

Friday, July 1, 2011

Ruth and Simone

peterson and acosta
Date of Commitment - June 2002
"Not only is marriage equality not recognised at a federal level in either of our countries, current Australian government policy does not permit the issuing of a CNI (certificate of non impediment) which prevents Ruth and I being married in the presence of her family and our friends in New York State, where same sex marriage was recently legalised, and have that marriage recognised in Australia."

Sunday, June 19, 2011

Tammy, Justine, Milla and Tom

© evan cooper
Date of Commitment - 2001
"Never underestimate the chances of meeting your soulmate on the internet."

Simon and Luke

© evan cooper
Date of Commitment - August 1999
“who would have thought a random night with a cute boy at The Shift in the 90’s would have ended up domestic bliss some 12 years later!”

Tuesday, June 14, 2011

Louise and Kate

© evan cooper
Date of Commitment - March 1984
"It's been 27 years of love and now looking forward to the next 27."

Saturday, June 11, 2011

Rob and Dave

© evan cooper
Date of Commitment - August 2000
"11 years ago we met and knew we belonged together.  We always put each other first and still after 11 years we still get excited to see each other after a day at work. 

Monogamy and love goes a long way when the respect for each other."

Sunday, June 5, 2011

A message from Adam Elliot

" I see so many sad couples around me who fight, argue and perhaps should go their separate ways. What saddens me the most, however, is that these heterosexual couples, have more rights than my partner and I who have been together for seven very loving years.

He is my soul mate, my best friend and the person I want to devote myself to for the rest of my life. We have never argued, kept secrets or hurt one another. Our relationship is strong, respectful, monogamous and deeply loving. It's a shame that we can't marry and share the same rights under the law as heterosexual couples.

Things are changing however, and hopefully in my lifetime the rest of the world will finally see that at the end of the day,  it's all about love!"

Monday, May 23, 2011

Craig and Leo

© evan cooper
Date of Commitment - September 1990
"We got married in Montreal, Quebec Canada on 1/8/2009 after 19 years together."

Dane and Tommy

© evan cooper
Date of Commitment - March 2000

Monday, May 16, 2011

Wednesday, May 11, 2011

Janet, Susan and Alex

© evan cooper
Date of Commitment - February 1998
"We celebrated our 10th anniversary with 120 of our closest friends and relatives and we plan to throw a 20th.....and a 30th......"

Tuesday, May 10, 2011

Kerry and Warren

© evan cooper
Date of Commitment - October 1983
"We have been together for 27years and we believe that equal marriage is both a human & legal right.  It is not a religious or political issue.  If the PM of this country can have a partner and the choice to receive all "benefits" then why cant we?" 

Sunday, May 8, 2011

Wendy and Shirley

© evan cooper
Date of Commitment -April 1996
"We both had children before we met. They all get along well as adults, just like any other family."

Kathy and Trudi

© evan cooper
Date of Commitment - April 2002
" We formed a Civil Union under British law and are looking forward to the day it is recognised in Australia."

Byron and Jim

© evan cooper
Date of Commitment - February 2001
"We had a British Civil Union, it was held at the British Commission in Melbourne February 2007"

"I hope I die before Jim as I cannot imagine my life without him."

Wednesday, May 4, 2011

Swee-Beng and Kerry

© evan cooper
Date of Commitment - September 1989
"We have been together since September 1989, and we are still very much in love. We are lucky in that our interests are quite similar, but we are different enough to still surprise each other sometimes. We have quite different personalities but our differences tend to be complementary. That we come from disparate cultural backgrounds has enriched both our lives, and has probably been an asset to our relationship rather than any kind of barrier. We are also fortunate that both our families have accepted us and our relationship well, and that we are blessed to have our own gay family unit with our godson Bank and his partner Peter."

Tuesday, May 3, 2011

David and Jim

© evan cooper
Date of Commitment - May 1999
"When you know you have found something unique, special and worthwhile you invest in it. The dividends are priceless. Even now, we are still learning more about each other everyday."

Monday, May 2, 2011

Carlos and Jean

© evan cooper
Date of Commitment - November 1978
"It's all good!"
"With all the ups and downs of life, love is about knowing ourselves as much knowing the others we love."

Wednesday, April 27, 2011

Kerry and Anna

© evan cooper
Date of Commitment - February 2000
"We've been together for over 11 years and still find each other hilariously funny."

Thursday, April 21, 2011

Adam and Clay

© evan cooper
Date of Commitment - August 2002

“Adam is a born Australian, while Clay is a transplant to Sydney from the US in 2000 (and has since become an AU Citizen).

We met in (approximately) August of 2002 at a dinner party at the home of a mutual friend.  The minute I saw Adam walk through the door I just knew he was the one…and he felt something similar.

By March the following year we were living together and have been together ever since.
Unfortunately no ceremony…and obviously no marriage in Australia…but we fervently hope that our day in Australia will happen soon.”

Friday, April 15, 2011

A message from Mrs Woog

Date of Commitment March 2002
We are committed to each other in every way. I am committed to be the best mum and partner I can be. I am committed to my family and watching the choices I have made make me happier each day.
I am committed to love, fun, life and exploring.  I enjoy the comfort that my commitments bring me.  It is an unquestionable feeling of belonging and peace.
Being committed does not need to be pin-pointed.  It is found in everything you do for each other.  It is an incidental perk of love.
I am committed to raising awareness of the unequal rights of gay and lesbian families in our country.
And unless the Australian Government starts talking seriously about instigating equal rights for ALL families and couples,  then perhaps they are the ones that should be committed.
Mrs Woog, Mr Woog and the Woogettes.
Australian Blogger Mrs Woog

Thursday, April 14, 2011

Greig and Glen

© evan cooper
Date of Commitment - October 1986

"Twenty-five years ago it was a commonly held belief that same sex relationships didn’t last. Back then we simply agreed that we’d stay together as long as we were both still enjoying it.
Well, we’re both still enjoying it."

Monday, April 11, 2011

Johnny, Darren and Noah

© evan cooper
Date of Commitment - October 1997
"During our first year as a couple, we spent every day together. We still love each other's company and believe our family deserves recognition, equality and respect just as much as any other. "

Sunday, April 10, 2011

A message from Senator Louise Pratt

I commend the Commitment Project for celebrating the lives and long loves of lesbian and gay couples. Thank you to all the couples and families that have shared their stories.

These stories show that nurturing a long term partnership is no small thing, it takes work – but comes with limitless rewards.

When I met my love, Aram, he was a very handsome woman – and now he is a very handsome man. So I know, when you find your soul mate, your love for them is bigger than the box or category others might like to define you by.

It is my hope that one day in the not too distant future all couples, should they choose and regardless of gender should have the right to marry. I am certainly working to that end
Senator Louise Pratt  - Australian Labor Party.

Grant and Kelley Drury-Green

© evan cooper
Date of Commitment - March 2000
"We had a commitment ceremony in 2002. Unfortunately it is not recognised.  We hyphenated our surnames at that time."

Thursday, April 7, 2011

Message from Vanessa Wagner

"Millions of Australians believe in a fair go for all and it seems governments are out of touch with this. The Commitment Project is a stunning visual addition to this growing wave of support"
Vanessa Wagner

Wednesday, April 6, 2011

Dane and Aaron

© evan cooper
Date of Commitment - February 2002
"We met at "Panthers" in 2002 and moved in together after a week!  We got married in San Francisco in 2008 and hope to have our marriage recognised in Australia one day."

Monday, April 4, 2011

Mary and Lil

© evan cooper
Date of Commitment - 1989
"We met at a friend's birthday party. I impressed Lil with my fantastic cricket skills.

We were together for 13 years before Mary met my parents"

Thursday, March 31, 2011

Bob and Barry

© deutsch & dershausky
Date of Commitment - 2003
"We are domestic partners in our city."

Monday, March 28, 2011

Jeff and Graham

© hughes and cowan
Date of Commitment - June 1980

"When we began our lives together, there was no thought in our minds that marriage would ever be an option.  Our relationship has survived for over thirty years primarily as a result of our commitment to each other.  Without a doubt, though, the support of our families and friends has made this much easier.

The world has changed a lot in that time.  Many nations now recognize same-sex marriages.  While our government now recognizes us as a couple in virtually all areas (particularly where it is in their economic benefit to do so), they still refuse to view our relationship as a partnership worthy of their formal recognition.

The time has come to end this last bastion of discrimination, and give us the right to publicly celebrate our relationship through marriage."

Wednesday, March 23, 2011

Lee, Simie and the kids - The Suburban Family

© oliver forbes
Date of Commitment - August 2002
"From the minute Lee met me he fell madly in love because I'm so adorable.

Lee has two children from a previous marriage which we have a shared arrangement."

Tuesday, March 22, 2011

Wayne and Ed

© wayne turner
Date of Commitment - October 1981
"When we met in 1977 we both had lovers.  In 1981, we did not. So, then we did!"

Monday, March 21, 2011

Friday, March 18, 2011

Austin and Shaun

©kevin alecca
Date of Commitment - 5 March 2002  (date of wedding)
“We’ve been together for 12 years and had a wonderful wedding in New Zealand 9 years ago. For us, we don’t feel we’re in a “same sex marriage” we’re in a marriage – it feels as wonderful, loving, fun-filled and strong as any of our friends marriages. Moving to California 3 years ago we became the “newbies” as some of our friends here have Commitments of 35 years, 30 years and 15 years”

Tuesday, March 15, 2011

Aaron and Alf

© gibson & eggo
Date of Commitment - January 2000
"An Aussie-Kiwi Relationship,  be happy while you're living, you're a long time dead"

Monday, March 14, 2011

Peter and Carlos

© evan cooper
Date of Commitment - October 1987
"We met by literally bumping into each other while boarding a flight at Memphis International Airport"

Saturday, March 12, 2011

A message from Mary-Anne Amies.

The Commitment Project is an inspiring collection of relationships of all different shapes and sizes. These personal insights into love touched me, I believe they have captured what most people seem to miss, and that is that no matter who you choose to love, love itself should not need permission from others to be validated. There should be no yard stick to measure your love against to see if it is worthy enough, it is hard enough to find someone to love for a lifetime, and a couple that finds that should be able to celebrate it. Evan's belief in love is simply beautiful and this project is so moving, I truly hope, it helps to turn the rusty wheels.
Mary-Anne Amies

Tuesday, March 8, 2011

Dunc and John

© evan cooper
Date of Commitment - March 1987
"Straight friends set us up and it worked. We lived together immediately."

Sunday, March 6, 2011

Brad and Aaron

© evan cooper
Date of Commitment - 25th April 1993
"We met at the exchange hotel at 3am on ANZAC day 1993 and have never been apart since. All we want is to be able to legalise our commitment to each other for us, our friends and our family”